Rebuttal – How Not to Raise a Ray of Sunshine.
This is one of the most absurd things I have read in quite some time. The author has decided that she would prefer her child not be included in preschool activities designed around helping others. It is stated that she hated that she was taught that she had to care all the time, and didn’t want her daughter feeling the pressure of that obligation. Then, the author turns it into a men vs. women thing for absolutely no reason, going into “Our society already teaches women to be “Class Sunshine.”” With seemingly no provocation or indication that this caring objective was in any way more aimed at girls than boys.
I will never understand how someone can decide the correct lesson to teach their child is to only care when it’s convenient. Yes, sometimes caring about someone else’s problems can be a burden. Sometimes, you would rather not. Does anybody actually believe that the world would be better if more people were willing to walk away from problems instead of helping fix them? Who has ever been remembered for walking away from things that needed to be fixed?
This attitude is not how you raise a successful adult. Yeah, that selfishness may work out in their day to day short term exchanges; but when it comes to building lasting relationships and moving up in the world, that kid is in for a hard time. Nobody wants to promote someone who is clearly going to choose their own short term gains every time. Nobody wants to stay in a relationship with someone who can’t stop and think about another person’s feelings every now and then.
So, if you ever find yourself answering the question “Why should my daughter be taught, at 3, that she’s responsible for placating Max and his mood disorder?” The answer is because it’s the good and decent thing to do. Self-Centeredness is not a virtue. Stop teaching kids that it is.
Good luck out there.
Who could this policy be serving? The kids obviously knew who drew what. At 2, 3 and 4, did they really look for signs to see who has a greater natural ability to finger-paint? And if the parents of these toddlers were that competitive, I didn’t want to have to hang out with them at school functions.