Grief is often misunderstood as a single emotion, like sadness, but it is much more complex. In the article “What We Get Wrong About Grief” by Mindbodygreen, a psychologist emphasizes the importance of recognizing the full range of emotions involved in the grieving process. The article highlights that grief can include feelings like anger, relief, frustration, or even joy, and that acknowledging these varied emotions is essential for healing.
The psychologist encourages people to let go of the idea that there is a ‘right’ way to grieve. The article discusses how everyone’s grief is different, and emotions that don’t fit into society’s narrow expectations shouldn’t be dismissed. Instead, embracing all emotions, even the unexpected ones, allows for a healthier, more authentic grieving process.
Key Takeaways:
- Grief is multifaceted and includes a wide range of emotions beyond sadness.
- Recognizing and accepting emotions like anger, relief, or even joy can support healing.
- There is no one “right” way to grieve; everyone’s process is unique.
- Suppressing or ignoring emotions can hinder the grieving process.
- Embracing all emotions creates space for more authentic healing.
Jaelin’s Notes:
Grief is not just a theoretical discussion; I have experienced it many times. I lost both of my parents when they were in their late fifties and early sixties, and I watched my brother-in-law Tony pass away from leukemia when he was only 18. I’ve also lost aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends over the years. Each of these losses was different, and so were the emotions that came with them.
As a midwife, I’ve also supported women and families through their grief—whether it’s through miscarriage, stillbirth, or the loss of a loved one. The idea that grief should only be sadness does a disservice to those experiencing it. I’ve seen women feel a mix of emotions after a loss, including relief, anger, and sadness, and those feelings are just as valid as any other.
Allowing space for these mixed emotions can be freeing. Grief doesn’t have a timeline, and there’s no ‘right’ way to feel. Embracing the full spectrum of feelings—whether that’s anger, guilt, relief, or even joy—helps us heal in a genuine and authentic way.
— Stay Strong, Jaelin —
For more information, read the complete article from Mindbodygreen by clicking the link below: