There’s nothing quite like the love of a pet. Whether it’s a loyal dog, a curious cat, or even a funny but stinky ferret (yes, we had two of them in the house at one point), animals bring something special into a home. They offer companionship, comfort, and, let’s be honest, a bit of chaos.
But when you bring home a brand-new baby, everything changes—sometimes in unexpected ways.
Full disclosure: I am not a pet expert or animal behaviorist. I’m writing this from my own experience—as someone who grew up with pets, raised kids in a house full of animals, and talked to plenty of parents who have done the same. I know firsthand how deeply pets can impact a child’s life, teaching compassion, responsibility, and unconditional love. But I also know that not all pets adjust easily to a new baby, and even the gentlest animals can react unpredictably in new situations.
That’s why it’s so important to recognize the limits of personal experience. Don’t hesitate to seek professional advice if you’re unsure about your pet’s behavior or if something feels off. A veterinarian, trainer, or animal behaviorist can provide guidance tailored to your specific situation.
This article is meant to be a guide, not a rulebook. I’ll walk you through everything I’ve learned about raising pets and babies together—from introducing your pet to your newborn to handling common challenges and safety precautions. Because when done right, pets and babies can grow up side by side, building a bond that lasts a lifetime.
Preparing Your Pet for Baby’s Arrival
Let’s be real—your pet probably thinks they are your baby. They’ve had your attention, love, and likely a prime spot on the couch for years. Then, all of a sudden, a tiny, noisy, unpredictable human arrives and flips their world upside down. That’s a huge adjustment for an animal, even the sweetest and most well-behaved ones.
I’ve lived in a house full of animals while raising my kids, and I can tell you—preparation makes all the difference. Just like you wouldn’t drop a toddler into a brand-new environment without guidance, pets also need time to adjust to the idea of a baby before they meet one.
So, how do you help them prepare for this major life change?
How to Make the Transition Easier:
Start Early—Way Before Baby Arrives
The more gradual the transition, the easier it will be for your pet to accept the new family dynamic. Don’t wait until you bring the baby home to introduce changes—start months in advance if possible.
- Introduce baby smells and sounds – Play recordings of baby cries and coos (yes, it might confuse them initially, but it helps them get used to the noise). Let them sniff baby lotion, diapers, and wipes so these scents become familiar.
- Let them explore baby gear – Strollers, swings, bassinets—these things look (and sound) strange to pets. Set them up before the baby arrives so your pet doesn’t associate them with sudden, scary changes.
- Practice walking with a stroller – If you have a dog that still needs daily walks, practice walking with an empty stroller ahead of time. This familiarity helps them learn not to tug or get overly excited when you’re pushing the baby.
Set Boundaries Now, Not Later
Bringing home a baby is exhausting. The last thing you want to do is start training your pet on new rules while running on two hours of sleep.
- If the nursery is off-limits, enforce that early – Close the door or use a baby gate before the baby comes home, so it’s not a sudden restriction.
- If your pet sleeps in your bed, consider transitioning them to their own space – A baby will change nighttime routines. Adjusting your pet’s sleeping area before your hands are full with diaper changes at 3 AM is easier.
- Make a safe space for your pet – Whether it’s a cozy crate, a pet bed, or a quiet room, give them a baby-free zone where they can retreat when they need space.
Brush Up on Training (Even for Cats!)
Even the best-behaved pet needs a little refresher when a baby comes into the picture.
- Reinforce basic commands – If you have a dog, “sit,” “stay,” and “leave it” are going to be lifesavers when dealing with baby items, feeding time, and general chaos.
- Teach them not to jump – New babies are fragile, and even a playful pounce can be too much. If your dog is a jumper, work on discouraging that behavior now.
- Practice gentle interactions – If your pet loves rough play, start rewarding them for being gentle, so they learn to handle your baby with care.
- For cats: Redirect crib curiosity – Cats love warm, cozy places, and a crib is prime real estate in their eyes. Start discouraging crib naps early—place double-sided tape or aluminum foil in the crib to make it an unappealing spot.
Create Positive Associations with Baby-Related Changes
Pets can quickly pick up on negative emotions. If every baby-related change in the house comes with scolding or restrictions, they might see the baby as bad.
- Give them love and attention around baby-related things – If they sit calmly near the crib, praise them. Make sure to give them treats if they sniff a baby blanket and don’t chew it.
- Pair baby sounds with something positive – Play a baby crying sound and immediately give them a treat. Over time, they’ll associate baby noises with something good instead of stress.
Keep Their Routine as Normal as Possible
Life gets hectic when a baby arrives, but pets thrive on predictability.
- Stick to regular feeding and walk times – If their schedule changes, they may act out to get your attention.
- Don’t suddenly cut back on their attention – I know you’ll be tired, but taking five minutes daily to pet, play, or cuddle with your pet makes a huge difference in how they adjust.
- If you need help, ask for it – If walking the dog is too much, see if a friend or family member can help. If your pet struggles with the transition, ask a trainer or veterinarian for guidance.
The Bottom Line: Set Your Pet Up for Success
Your pet doesn’t know what’s coming, but you do. Starting early, setting boundaries, and creating positive associations make it much easier for them to adjust when the baby finally arrives.
And remember—your pet has been part of your life for a long time. With the proper preparation, they can happily welcome the newest member of the family and form a lifelong bond that’s truly special.
The First Meeting: Introducing Your Pet to Your Baby
The moment has finally arrived. You’re exhausted, your pet is curious (or maybe a little unsure), and your baby… well, they have no clue what’s happening.
This first introduction sets the tone for their relationship, so the goal is to make it as calm and positive as possible. Some pets will immediately accept the baby, while others might need a little convincing that this tiny human isn’t a threat or a new chew toy. Either way, this moment is a big deal—so let’s make sure it goes smoothly.
How to Make the First Meeting Stress-Free
Stay Calm—Your Pet Will Follow Your Lead
Animals are incredibly attuned to our emotions. They’ll pick up on it if you’re nervous, stressed, or acting strangely. And if they sense something’s “off,” they may react in ways you don’t expect.
- Take a deep breath.
- Keep your energy calm, confident, and relaxed.
- Avoid sudden movements or nervous chatter—your pet needs reassurance, not tension.
If you’re at ease, your pet is more likely to be at ease too.
Let Them Sniff—At a Safe Distance
Your baby smells different—new, intriguing, and unfamiliar. Scent is everything to animals, so giving your pet time to adjust to your baby’s smell before they get too close is key.
Before the official introduction:
- Bring home a baby blanket or onesie from the hospital and let your pet sniff it at their own pace.
- Pair it with positive reinforcement—give them a treat or praise while they sniff so they start associating baby smells with good things.
During the introduction:
- Hold your baby securely, but keep your energy calm and casual.
- Let your pet approach slowly on their own terms—don’t push them to get closer than they’re comfortable with.
Some pets will sniff and walk away, while others might sit and stare, trying to figure out what this tiny creature is. Both reactions are completely normal!
Never Force Interaction—Let Curiosity Lead the Way
Some pets will be immediately fascinated by the baby. Others might take one look, decide they’re not interested and walk away. And that’s okay!
- Don’t shove your baby in your pet’s face—that’s overwhelming and can make them anxious.
- Let them observe from a distance if they’re comfortable with that.
- If they approach, allow them to sniff gently, but never let them lick the baby’s face (even the sweetest dog has bacteria in their mouth).
If your pet isn’t immediately interested, don’t panic—sometimes, it just takes a little time. The key is to make the introduction feel natural, not forced.
Praise and Reward Good Behavior
The moment your pet does something positive around the baby, reinforce it.
- If they sit calmly near the baby? Give them a treat.
- If they gently sniff and then walk away? Praise them.
- If they ignore the baby completely? That’s great too! No reaction is better than a negative one.
This reinforcement helps your pet associate the baby with good things rather than feeling like they have to compete for attention.
💡 Bonus Tip: If your pet starts acting jealous or needy, set aside a few minutes each day just for them—belly rubs, walks, or playtime. A little extra love can go a long way.
Watch for Stress Signals & Give Space if Needed
Not all pets will be thrilled at first. Some may be nervous, anxious, or confused—and that’s normal. However, knowing the warning signs of stress can prevent problems before they start.
Signs your pet may be stressed or unsure:
- Excessive licking or yawning (dogs)
- Ears pinned back, tail tucked, or rigid body language
- Growling, whining, or sudden avoidance
- Pacing or restlessness
- Hiding or staying in another room
If you notice any of these signs, don’t force the interaction. Instead:
- Give your pet space and let them observe from a distance.
- Continue positive reinforcement when they act calmly near the baby.
- Keep introductions short and sweet—no need to overwhelm them.
Some pets will take a few days or weeks to accept this new family member fully. Patience is key.
The Bottom Line: A Calm, Positive Introduction Sets the Stage for a Lifelong Bond
Your pet and baby are about to grow up together—and that’s beautiful.
By keeping the first meeting calm, controlled, and pressure-free, you’re helping them start their relationship on the right foot (or paw).
And remember—just because your pet isn’t obsessed with the baby on day one doesn’t mean they won’t develop a strong bond over time. Give them love, patience, and reassurance, and you’ll set the stage for a lifelong friendship between your pet and your child.
Keeping Everyone Safe: Baby-Proofing for Pets
Even the best-trained pet can be unpredictable, and babies have a knack for grabbing tails, ears, and fur without warning.
Must-Know Safety Tips:
- No unsupervised baby-and-pet time. Ever. Period. Even the gentlest animals can react unpredictably.
- Separate sleeping spaces. No pets in the crib. Ever. Cats love cozy spots, and dogs may try to “guard” the baby, which sounds cute but can be dangerous.
- Teach “gentle” early. Once your baby starts reaching for the pet, show them how to touch softly (no tail-yanking, no eye-poking).
- Secure food and water bowls. Crawling babies are fast, and pet food is a choking hazard. Also, please put no baby hands in the water bowl.
- Keep pet toys away from baby. Squeaky toys look much like baby toys—until someone chews on the wrong one.
- Keep up with vet visits. Healthy pets = safer babies. Ensure vaccinations, flea treatments, and parasite prevention are current.
Strengthening the Bond Between Your Baby & Pet
What is the best part of raising a baby alongside pets? Watching their bond grow.
- Let your pet be included. Supervised cuddle time, stroller walks, or hanging out in the same room helps pets feel part of the new dynamic.
- Give your pet one-on-one time. Even five minutes of undivided attention can help them feel secure and loved.
- Make baby time positive for your pet. Give treats and praise when your pet behaves well around the baby.
- Be patient. This is a huge adjustment for everyone—give your pet time to adapt.
Common Challenges & How to Handle Them
- Pet Acting Jealous? – Reward calm behavior around the baby. More exercise and attention help, too.
- Dog Barking at Baby? – Redirect attention with commands and calm exposure. No yelling—it reinforces excitement.
- Cat Jumping in the Crib? – Use a crib tent or keep the door closed. Offer another cozy sleeping spot.
- Baby Crawling Toward Pet Food? – Place pet bowls in baby-free zones.
- Pet Seeming Withdrawn? – Make time for one-on-one play and affection. Change is hard for them too.
What to Do If It’s Just Not Working Out
No one wants to imagine this scenario. You prepared, trained, and introduced your pet carefully, but things aren’t working despite your best efforts. Maybe your pet shows extreme stress, aggression, or jealousy that won’t ease up. Perhaps they’ve had a concerning reaction to your baby, or no matter what you do, you can’t shake the feeling that something isn’t safe.
This scenario is the hardest part of raising babies and pets together—the realization that, in some cases, it may not be the right fit.
Prioritizing Safety First
The bottom line is your baby’s safety must always come first. You can resolve many issues with training and time, but some situations demand tough decisions. Here are some signs that it may be time to reconsider your pet’s place in your home:
- Repeated aggressive behavior—growling, snapping, or lunging, even after training and intervention.
- Extreme anxiety or distress—if your pet is constantly hiding, refusing to eat, or showing signs of depression.
- Unpredictable behavior—one minute, they’re fine; the next, they react dangerously.
- Escalating jealousy or resource guarding—if they are trying to “protect” their space from the baby.
- A serious bite or attack—even if it seems minor- is a red flag that cannot be ignored.
If you’re constantly on edge, feeling like you have to monitor every second of interaction, or you’re afraid to leave your pet and baby in the same room—that’s your gut telling you something isn’t right. Listen to it.
Exploring Your Options
If you’ve reached this difficult point, you do have options—and rehoming doesn’t have to mean “giving up.”
- Consult a Professional First – Before making any final decisions, talk to a certified animal behaviorist or veterinarian to see if there are any other solutions. Some issues can be resolved with professional intervention.
- Reach Out to Trusted Friends or Family – Consider rehoming your pet with someone you trust. This way, you still have a connection and know they’re in a safe, loving home.
- Contact Breed-Specific or No-Kill Rescues – If family isn’t an option, research reputable rescue organizations specializing in your pet’s breed or temperament. These groups are better equipped to find the right home than a general shelter.
- Be Honest When Rehoming – If you need to find your pet a new home, be upfront about their needs and challenges. It’s unfair to place them with a family that may face the same struggles.
- As a Last Resort, Speak with a Shelter – While this is never an easy choice, some shelters and rescues have dedicated programs to help families safely rehome pets. Always choose a no-kill shelter if possible.
Making Peace with a Hard Choice
Rehoming a pet doesn’t mean you failed. It doesn’t mean you didn’t try hard enough. It means you loved your pet enough to do what’s best for them and your family.
Some pets simply struggle in homes with small children, and that’s no one’s fault. The most responsible thing you can do is ensure your baby and pet are safe and cared for—even if that means making an incredibly tough decision.
At the end of the day, you have to trust yourself. If you know deep down that it isn’t working, it’s okay to make a change. Your baby deserves to grow up safe, and your pet deserves a home where they can thrive.
Final Thoughts: A Lifelong Friendship in the Making
Bringing a baby into a home with pets is a beautiful journey, but like anything worthwhile, it takes patience, preparation, and a little trial and error. Some days, it will feel effortless—your pet will curl up near your baby, and you’ll see the beginnings of a lifelong bond. Other days, it might feel like pure chaos, with your pet acting out, your baby shrieking, and you wondering why you ever thought this was a good idea.
The truth is, not every pet and baby pairing works out perfectly, and that’s okay. Most pets adjust with time, boundaries, and reassurance, forming a relationship with your child that will shape both of their lives. But sometimes, despite your best efforts, the situation just isn’t safe or sustainable. And in those moments, you have to make the tough choice that puts your child’s safety first—even if it means rehoming a pet you love.
No matter where your journey leads, what matters most is that you’re doing your best for both your baby and your pet. If you’re lucky, you’ll get to witness the magic of a child and an animal growing up together—the laughter, the companionship, and the quiet moments of trust. And if you have to make the heartbreaking decision to find your pet a new home, you can do so with the knowledge that you’re making the right choice for everyone involved.
So, take it one day at a time. Give yourself grace. And remember—this isn’t just about adding a baby to your home; it’s about creating a family where everyone, paws and all, belongs. 💛
— Stay Strong! Jaelin —
💬 Got a pet and a baby? How did your pet react to your baby? Share your experiences in the comments below!
Additional Reading
- Living with Kids and Dogs…Without Losing Your Mind by Colleen Pelar
- Childproofing Your Dog: A Complete Guide to Preparing Your Dog for the Children in Your Life by Brian Kilcommons
- Dogs and Babies – ASPCA
- Preparing Your Pet for a New Baby – Humane Society
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About the Author:
Jaelin Stickels, CNM, WHNP, is a deeply passionate and highly skilled Certified Nurse Midwife, Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner, and the owner of Holistic Heritage Homebirth in Houston, Texas. With over a decade of experience, Jaelin has had the privilege of helping several hundred women welcome their babies into the world. In addition to her advanced practice licensure training, she has additional advanced training in twin and breech births, making her one of only a few with these skills in her area. Jaelin approaches every birth with expertise, compassion, and a deep respect for the birthing process. Jaelin is finishing her doctorate and looking forward to being Dr. Jaelin in early 2025.
Jaelin’s journey into midwifery began with a profound love for supporting women through the incredible experience of pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. Since 2010, she has been dedicated to walking alongside families during these transformative moments, offering guidance, support, and care tailored to each individual’s unique needs. She is a big believer in informed consent and ensures clients are given the best evidence-based information to make the best decisions for themselves and their families.
Married to her high school sweetheart Ted (aka Chef Ted) since 1984, Jaelin is the proud mother of three grown children and the delighted grandmother of one amazing granddaughter. When she’s not assisting in births, Jaelin finds joy in going to the movies with her husband, quilting, and cherishing time with her family. Known by the other midwives in her practice (Holistic Heritage Homebirth) affectionately as the “Birth Hog,” she brings an unmatched dedication and enthusiasm to her work—no one loves birth quite like she does.
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